Tell The Others

Grief, loss and cultivating a positive outlook after the death of a loved one

January 04, 2022 Heidi Rogers
Tell The Others
Grief, loss and cultivating a positive outlook after the death of a loved one
Show Notes

The loss of a loved one creates a new kind of 'normal' and introduces us to a kind of suffering that we have never known.

Join me as I speak with special guest Brendan Murray as he opens up about his experiences with death and the loss of his parents. For anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, Brendan shares some techniques to cope with grief and loss to help you get back to life.

What to expect from the episode:

  • Feelings and vulnerability in grief
  • How does losing someone you love affect you?
  • Describing the pain of losing someone
  • Cultivating a positive outlook after losing a loved one
  • Why is it hard to accept someone's death?
  • Do you ever recover from losing a loved one?
  • The power of choosing positive emotion
  • Negative mindsets: blame and regret will hold you back from being happy
  • How to train your brain to focus on what you can control
  • Techniques and goals for growth


[02:37] What Heidi noticed about Brendan when his parents passed away
[05:04] How Brendan copes with grief and loss
[08:12] Is it true that “everything happens for a reason”?
[11:14] How do you reconcile grief?
[12:47] An analogy for explaining death
[15:10] Can you feel the presence of a loved one who passed away?
[19:19] You get to choose how you feel
[21:42] The importance of recognizing your emotions
[25:19] Describing the feeling of losing someone you love for the first time
[27:08] Does dealing with death get easier?
[33:57] Overcoming regret and self-blame
[37:25] The importance of focusing on what you can control
[45:05] “When you stop growing you start dying”
[48:13] Ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion
[49:41] Build momentum to create a force for good in your life
[51:17] Byron Katie's Four Questions
[55:20] Heidi's first Tony Robbins experience
[1:01:16] Tony Robbins’ work and its impact on Brendan and Heidi
[1:05:41] “Knowledge isn't power, execution is where the power lies”
[1:07:19] Opportunity to demonstrate change


If you'd like to learn about my upcoming program for adults, I've recorded a 3 minute video discussing what it's all about and how it can help YOU create a life you love - I'm excited to share it with you! Check out The Art of Self Healing here. This program focuses on the common challenges we all face and dives deep into the solutions I've seen work with hundreds of clients across my career.

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